When Is Our Next Step?
Things happen when you least expects it, says everyone. True enough it happened to me. I met this beautiful and amazing woman through my ex-colleague. We’ve been together for about 1year 3months now. And unfortunately, because of the circumstances, we are in a closed relationship. Only a few close friends knew about us. Couples who are not out could very well relate to my story. Its even sadder that we try not to talk about our future because we’ll just argue and cry. Its something we called “Dont ask, Dont tell” type of situation. But I’m turning 26 next year,and she’s turning 27. I can’t help but think of the future. See the thing is, I’m ready to take the next step. I’m ready to at least move in together. But she on the other hand, wouldn’t want to with the excuse of our financial stability. She wants me to be realistic about things. But I cant help but wonder if she’s really willing to take the next step or is she just taking the day as it is. To be honest, this relationship is never realistic to begin with. I know someday we have to part. And everytime I try to do that, she will just beg me not to let go of her. Its tough to let go, yet at the same time its tougher to hold on. I’m not sure if there are others who are in the exact same situation as mine. I guess every relationship has its challenges.
I can relate! I was with m girlfriend for four years.I always wanted to live as if we were a "real couple" .As if we were married. My money was hers and we cooked and cleaned for each other . But it ended up feeling like whats mines is here and whats hers is hers! We did move in together though. we lived together under my sisters roof , so we had no bills to pay so financially we were stable but i was tired of living under someone else's roof! i wanted to wife this girl and take care of her. Long story short we broke up because she couldn't take us seriously and obviously we couldn't get married because where lesbians. Being gay is one of the hardest challenges in life. Its something i have always struggles with and still am. Take my advice, if she's not ready now. I don't know if she ever will be!