Whats wrong with me…?
Hi, so to start things off, I am 100 percent Greek. Very strong traditional Greek family background and i live in PA. I am 20 years old and at a very confused time in my life. I’ve known I was gay in my freshman year of high school. Well I’ve probably known since i was about 8 or 9, but didn’t really look into it at that age. Anyways I have a girlfriend whom I’ve been dating for about a year now and I moved in with her and 2 other roommates recently. She was very excited about this and i guess so was I at the beginning, but now i don’t really know what to do. By the way, I’m not out to many people; just my roommates. After about 5 months into my relationship with my girlfriend, I realized she isn’t the type of girl that I see myself with later on in life, but i still stayed in the relationship thinking it will change. It hasn’t, we constantly argue and push each others buttons and I’ve honestly had enough of it. The problem is she has no backbone. Her family is out of state and she doesn’t necessarily have the best relationship with them. She also doesn’t have many close friends considering she moved. The only best friend she has is leaving her when the lease is over as well because he’s had enough of her anger and petty fights as well. She’s done a lot of hurtful things to me, bu at the end of the day i come back because i feel sad for her because she has nobody really. If we breakup she has nowhere to go because her roommates are going to leave too. The lease ends May and I don’t want to leave her stranded because I still do very much care for her. I must add she’s very stubborn and made it clear that she doesn’t want to be my fiend if we break up. So If i breakup with her. She won’t want anything to do with me. I won’t even be able to help her. So should i just break up with her now? Or wait until the lease is over, so i can help pay rent and help he get around for school and work because I’m the only one with the car. : Thanks for any responses.
p.s. i really hope she doesn’t find this O.o
While reading this, I felt like I was reading something that I wrote myself. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I’m 19 and I live in PA too (woo!)…anyway, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years and we have a lot of the same problems you seem to have with your girlfriend. I know what you mean about not wanting to leave because she won’t have any friends with her…but, I think you need to make the decision that is best for you. I don’t know you, but I do know that you don’t deserve to be hurt all the time. Maybe if you give her a heads up, she will have some time to figure things out for herself before the lease ends. That way, she isn’t left “stranded” if you decide to leave.
I hope this helped at least a little bit 🙂 Good luck!
~Kat
I know someone in this situation and it sucks to be put in that place. I know how it feels to want to leave, but there's so much holding you back. Like Kat said, you should do what's best for you and if you choose to break up with her, give her enough time to figure something out. Doing it now would give her enough time to look for somewhere else and even maybe let her warm up to the idea of just being friends. I know it sucks hurting someone and knowing that they only really have you, but she's gotta learn to stand on her own to feet for her own wellbeing in the future. Goodluck, I hope everything works out.
Jaz