Our Love Story

Our Story,

My wife and I met in 2003 when I moved to her small town in Cold Lake, Alberta. She was the bartender at a local bar, and had a girlfriend. When I walked in the bar, she apparently thought to herself “That’s a girl I could marry!” I get tingly when she tells me that because it was a loooong drama filled road to get where we are today.

My wife’s name is Melissa. (Mouse is her nickname). She told her girlfriend the night she met me that she met someone that made her feel good. I remember meeting her but that’s it. The next night her girlfriend who was slightly heavier and bigger and VERY INTIMIDATING approached me asking me what I wanted with her girlfriend. We talked it out as at this point I had no idea who Mouse was.

We all became friends, close friends and it spiraled into a web of crushes, lust, threesomes and heartbreak. Melissa and I had a fling on the side which we are not proud to admit. We just couldn’t stop or control our feelings for each other, we flirted at work constantly-we bartended together and passed notes like little school girls. This went on for a year. Finally Melissa realized she had to end things with her girlfriend as they weren’t happy, there were no plans for marriage and no future between them. It was a hard process as we were all pretty close.

We started dating in April of 2004 three days after my 22nd birthday. When she asked me out, I of course said yes but then began a battle within as I never identified as being fully gay previously. I had boyfriends and was married at 18 two months after my high school graduation. I cheated on my ex husband with my best friend (girl) and the day I slept with a woman was the day that changed my life forever. I finally felt like I knew what and who I was but it was still all so confusing.

Melissa proposed to me at the bar in 2005 and I of course said yes. She put the ring in a shooter glass to remember the many shooters we did while flirting at work:) It was a special and happy moment with all our friends around to share the joy.

When I told my mom I was dating a woman that went far from good. We were a very religious family that practices banishment when someone ‘sins’. My mom and I have had a really rocky relationship since I started with Melissa. She even convinced me to leave Melissa in 2006 for the religion which I did for two weeks. In a way I’m glad it happened as it was the realization that I needed. I’m gay, I’m madly in love and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. THIS IS THE WOMAN I WANT TO MARRY AND BE WITH FOREVER!

Thankfully she took me back and welcomed me home with open arms. I bought her a ring and mustered the courage to ask her hand in marriage this time I wasn’t willing to give her up for ANYTHING! Gay marriage was legalized in Canada and we were very excited! My mom made a nice turn this past June as we went for a visit and she had lunch with us, a little too much wine and the trip went better than I thought. She is giving a little and in our 6 year relationship my mom has never been in the same room as us till now. It was the nicest feeling ever! I think she finally realized that I am happy and that she has to accept us to a certain level.

We married June 13, 2009. It was the happiest day of my life. We are made for each other in every way possible. She is my rock and my soul mate. We plan on having children and already have seen the doctors in Edmonton. We will do artificial insemination although I hate that I need some guys junk to knock us up….we can’t wait to start our family though it’s very exciting. I couldn’t imagine my life without her. It’s the best feeling in the world knowing you found ‘the one’.

I work long days in the Oilfield so my wife stays home and supper is always ready she is an amazing wife and will be a great mother. It’s funny because I’m the girlie girl in the relationship but bring home the bread and butter:) It works for us and we love our life. We are planning on buying a house in 2011 so that’s exciting!

It’s so nice to have The Real L Word, it’s nice to see other couples out there just like us. Finally there’s REAL LIVE LESBIANS on TV! LOL. You ladies are super cute and I wish you a long and happy life together. Hang in there through the bad times because they make you stronger:) Always kiss each other good night and never go to bed mad.

It would be cool to meet you girls, you should come to Alberta and do a comedy show:) I’m thinking of surprising my wife and road tripping to Dinah Shore next year but that’s a looong ways so we’ll see:)

Thanks for letting me share our story:) We hope there is a second season. Stamie, your comedy is hilarious, you should post more of your shows on youtube. Our wedding slideshow is on youtube also. I hope that it inspires others as other people have inspired me:)

Take care ladies,
Amanda Ayers