Baby-steps & confidence
Baby Steps:
Hi, my name is Monica. Regarding my coming out story.. The way I planned to come out was always about baby steps. I choose this way because I don’t like pressure. Who does, right? I’m just in my 20’s so I’ve always been a big fan of comfort and it’s very important to me that the people surrounding me should also feel comfortable.
First, I started with my older and only sister who is also my best friend. She supports me and loves me no matter what. Strike one! … Second, I choose to come out to my 4 dearest and closest friends who I can count on day&night. 2 of them already thought that I might be gay. They love and support me no matter what. Strike two!…Third, the most important 2 human beings in my life. Mom & Dad. I know what you’re thinking : “ I bet your parents were a piece of cake,considering all of the above” ..yes,it was a piece of cake BUT it took me a while to prepare the cake for the big news. I’ve always been a good daughter and I never caused any problems..and I still am. And they both know and appreciate that. I sat one day with them and told them that I love them, I am thankful for them and everything they’ve done for me, I respect them and then I reminded them that I will forever be the same daughter who they raised me to be. No matter what. And with that I told them that I am gay. Their reaction was mostly like Jill’s parents reaction from The Real L Word. They just need ( I recently came out ) time to adjust to my choice. Strike three!..and I’m out..Healthy, happily , loved by family&friends.
I realize how many of you are out there with sad and painful life stories. And I feel deeply sorry for every one of you, but my point after this story is NOT TO GIVE UP! Never. As much as it may hurt, eventually it gets better. Good things will come in your life. Fight and hold on.
Confidence:
The day I will tell you those three simple, yet caring words, will come.
I know that you are out there somewhere in this big world and I know I will find you.
Life is all about ups and downs. Both you and I (whoever and wherever you are) are going through this life ride. I wonder sometimes if the one who is made for me , even though she doesn’t know of me yet, nor I of her, ever wonders the same thing? Even so, I know and I believe that eventually, life will reward us by making us be in each other’s life so that this time we can continue the life ride Together.. with Love.
Live your life and fight. Sitting and waiting for great things won’t bring you anything. Have faith in yourself.
Tracy&Stamie, thank you both for everything you’ve done. You truly are an inspiration to all of us.
Last but not least, thank you, the one standing in front of the screen, for taking time to read my story.
Oh and sorry if my English isn’t that good sometimes but I’m European 🙂
funny…cause while I was reading I was thinking on how well is written, lol
Seriously? lol, well I did put a lot of effort in writing it, thanks!
Where in Europe are you from?
I'm from Romania. Where are you from?
I am from Romania. Where are you from?
really like your story and it must took u lot's of effort and courage to do that, feel jealous for u
Thank you very much. Don't feel jealous,you should do it as well. Posting your story might help you more than you can imagine.
it's very very hard to do it, especially i live in muslim country and my family won't take it easily ( except for one of my brother who accept me for who i am) and i love my parents too much, can't stand to broke their heart, can't live with that.
I'm sorry to hear that. I understand your choice though.If you feel like talking,to make you feel better or something,let me know. I'm here for you.
thanks alot, that's real nice of you. weird thing is i have many gay friends and when my mom said that it's a "disease", i stand up for my friends and talk to my mom about it, but can't never say that her daughter might be one of them.
Yeah,I see..well,you really are in a tough situation. I can't imagine what it would be like for my parents to be against it. I admire you for being strong about it. It's good for you.
sometimes being strong is good but sometimes it's not because you aren't being the real you.
well, i hope you find your love and life to the fullest 😀
thank you 🙂 it's true,but the point is that you always have to be strong no matter what 🙂
people are weird you know, it's always easy to encourage others to be truth about themselves and but it's never easy to encourage yourself to be truth about who you are.
this is so true. I noticed it too,it's always easy to give advice to others,but when it comes to applying those things in your own life it's not that simple anymore..That's why we shouldn't judge others,look at your life first and then think twice before saying something about someone else.
yeah… i agree but we are human, human make mistakes, we DO sometimes judge a book by it's cover.
people always said: go, fly high, reach your dreams, do what you want to and when you do it, they sometimes just don't agree with your choice T.T
nicely said! I can't even comment on this one,lol..speechless :p
lol,ok.., still gotta be positive positive positive thinking
and thanks for your story :p
hehe,positive times 3 :p Well your welcome 🙂 hope it helped 🙂